The Power of Negative Thinking

loved for yourself, and the only way you can gain love is by meeting certain conditions.

In conditional interactions the unsafety that is created is due to the sad fact that you do not feel

the prime need of people in our culture is to be loved, recognised, valued and accepted. Any threat to that emotional and social need poses great danger for people and so it is not surprising that, just as for physical threats, creative protections are developed to reduce or eliminate risks to emotional and social well-being.

‘Given my past, what would you expect of me?’
‘My parents never cared for me.’
‘School was just a washout.’
‘It’s no wonder I am the way I am when you see my parents.’
‘The Church made fools out of us.’
‘Teachers never liked me.’

people creatively develop protective patterns of thinking to reduce the possibility of further hurt, humiliation and rejection.

the way you think determines what you feel.

your psyche – the unconscious – is constantly active on your behalf to heal your inner conflicts and help you to move on to a greater realisation of your being.

you protectively avoid intimate contact with others, the alerting message may be to do with an emotional rejection of self arising from your experiences of being rejected by your parents when you were a child.

the prime need in our culture is to be loved and valued

protecting themselves from further hurt.