The Power of Negative Thinking
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But the sad thing is that because of the need for protection you have lost the love of challenge, the natural curiosity and eagerness to learn that is so evident in toddlers.People who constantly avoid challenges are labeled as being a person that constantly has “pessimistic thoughts” due to them not putting themselves out there because of the fear of being a failure. People who don’t challenge themselves won’t ever get out that barrier of trying to constantly protect themselves because their thought process is all negative.
- naznin sultanaidézettelőző hónapChildren develop tremendous security when through having their physical, emotional, social and other needs met regularly they learn that the world is an orderly, predictable and caring place to be. However, when children’s needs are not attended to regularly, then they begin to protect themselves and they see the world as a fundamentally unsafe place to be. In seeing the world in this way children, and later on adults, protect themselves and they now take few risks in exploring the richness of the world. I have worked with individuals who believed that if they stepped outside their front door, some awful disaster would befall. Avoidance behaviours, severe phobias, emotional and physical withdrawal are all revelations of a child’s emotional insecurities. T
Acknowledging your kids during their childhood creates a major difference on the way they perform when they’re older. (Positive impact)
- naznin sultanaidézettelőző hónapThe major protection in projection is that, by putting the focus on the other, you do not have to face up to your own vulnerability. Neither do you have to take any emotional risks when you engage in projection because when you think like this about others, the onus is put on them to change rather than on you.
Hiding yourself in places because of the fear of being overlooked at differently changes how you express yourself.
- naznin sultanaidézettelőző hónapIn these self-statements introjection (internalising what other people say about you) is the dominant protective strategy: either ‘I’m so bad’ that nothing could be expected of me and I have justification for avoiding risk-taking, or ‘I’m so good’ that I work and work and work to maintain other people’s acceptance of me.
People internalize their behaviors by saying phrases like : “I knew this would happen” or “I knew this would turn out like this”. These phrases are often caused from self-doubt which leads to the person not taking risks because of the mindset that they aren’t capable of doing it. On the other hand, people say phrases like “I’m so good”, but in reality they are being sarcastic. In my opinion, this people pleasing tactics because if you’re really genuinely doing something for someone, you wouldn’t try to maintain a good character (bragging) just to feel accepted by other people.
- naznin sultanaidézettelőző hónapintrojection (internalising what other people say about you)
- naznin sultanaidézettelőző hónapProtective thinking patterns not only provide you with emotional protection but are also a window into the hidden world of your emotional vulnerability. As such, they provide you with an opportunity to resolve these problems
People use protective thinking as a shield to not get hurt, and also leads to them being less vulnerable.
- naznin sultanaidézettelőző hónapcommon ‘negative’ thought pattern is ‘I hate going into work today’. Individuals who feel confident and competent do not think about their jobs in this way. When difficulties arise, they see them as challenges from which they can emerge more knowledgeable and, perhaps, wiser.
- naznin sultanaidézettelőző hónapProjection of your own helplessness on to the future so that you do not have to face the sad reality of your own emotional vulnerability.
Provision of a rationale for avoidance of constructive action that threatens your hidden insecurity.
Creation of the possibility of a sympathetic response from others and the possibility that they will take responsibility for you, thereby eliminating any need for risk-taking on your part. - naznin sultanaidézettelőző hónapIt provides a rationale for not taking the risk of expressing emotional needs.
- naznin sultanaidézettelőző hónapWhen voiced, it reduces others’ expectations of you by leading them to believe that only failures and mistakes can be expected from you.
A further protection is that, given their low expectations, people may be agreeably surprised when you turn out to surpass their expectations. Remember that much of this process is subconscious; your psyche constantly works to protect you from pain and also creates opportunities for you to resolve your hidden emotional problems.Don’t let anyone else’s expectations affect the way you perform. Let people think you’re this “failure”, so therefore when you succeed, they won’t know what to expect. This is a great way of focusing on what’s best for you instead of being in a situation where you have to live up to somebody else’s expectations. Do what you know what’s best for you with vulnerability, and be ready to face challenges.
Note to future self : Don’t let anyone know your moves because you never know who’s wishing negative on you. Make sure you cherish your accomplishments by yourself before telling anyone.
